Aggression in schools is becoming a major problem. The first step is to identify the students showing aggressive behaviour. They have to be understood and counseled and for this process to be successful is required from both the school as well as the family.
First of all , all the students must be made to understand that our lives comprises of the good and the bad, there is nothing black and white. We are given the choice to choose between the good and the bad thoughts, the good and the bad action.
So ,the teachers and the family have to interact daily with the students to keep on making them realize that to do good actions and to accept good thoughts from the surrounding is their choice. Similarly it is in their hand to keep away from doing bad acts and thoughts.
Our attitudes are formed in our childhood and right from the childhood our mind can think positively or negatively. And if we have acquired a negative attitude it does not mean we are stuck with it.
VIOLENT BEHAVIOUR
Aggression is a normal part of a preschooler's development. Sometimes children lack a grip on vocabulary. Pushing and hitting are the closest ways for them to express their frustrations and they demonstrate their lack of social skills, through pinching, biting or any other form of aggressive behaviour.
Reasons for Aggression
a. Lack of impulse control : Sometimes a child understands that pinching hurts, but he may not be able to stop himself from doing it.
b.Frustration : He is frustrated when he cannot control his environment as much as he would like to, so he responds in the best way he knows, that is by pinching a playmate or snatching a toy from his friend or biting his sibling.
c.A drive for independence : He asserts himself aggressively in order to feel more important.
d.Lack of verbal communication : As the proverb goes, "Action speaks louder than words", this holds true for a toddler as he does not possess the verbal skills required to express his feelings, desires or needs, so he often resorts to more physical means of aggression.
e.Inadequate attention : If a child feels neglected, he will try to get attention in any form.
Children do not learn to tame their aggressive instincts naturally. They need to be taught.
a.Respond quickly : Try to respond immediately if you see your child getting aggressive. Remove him from the situation for a brief time-out. Three or four minutes are a lot of time for a preschooler child.
b.React in the same manner : As much as possible, respond to his aggressive acts the same way, every time. Eventually it will sink in, that if he gets a time out, he misses on all the fun.
c.Avoid a heavy hand : Never hit a child. Instead try to handle your toddler in a firm but gentle way, even if you are very annoyed with him.
d.Reward good behaviour : Rather than paying attention to your child only when he misbehaves, try to catch him being good. Hitting, biting and other aggressive behaviours are often calls for attention by children who are frequently ignored or unappreciated when they are behaving well.
e.Provide opportunities for venturing and minimizing frustrations : Sending him for karate classes or dance classes to channelise his energy.
f.Banish boredom : "An idle mind is a devils workshop", holds very true for a child. An idle toddler can do major mischief. Anticipate your child's interest and challenge him with a brain teasing game or activity.
g.Do not be afraid to seek help : Some children have more trouble with aggression than others. Sometimes an undiagnosed learning or behaviour disorder is behind the frustration and anger.
Whatever is the cause, a counsellor can help your child work through the emotions that tend to lead to aggression and help him to control them in future.
